Who Am I Outside of Motherhood?

Rediscovering the woman behind the mom; with grace, faith, and intention.

Let’s get real for a second. Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, “Who even am I anymore?” You know your kids’ favorite snacks. You manage appointments, make magic from chaos, carry an invisible checklist in your mind every single day, and you are the master at taking care of everyone around you. But when the noise settles and the house finally gets quiet… sometimes you realize you don’t recognize the woman you’ve become. You are not alone.

 

The Shift No One Prepares You For

Motherhood changes everything, in the best and hardest ways. But somewhere between baby bottles, school runs, and the demands of daily life, as time goes on and the kids kid older we start to fade into the background of our own story. Not because we don’t love being moms. But because we’ve been told (directly or indirectly) that good moms put themselves last; I want to know who made that unwritten rule up. And over time, that message becomes a belief. Then that belief becomes our identity.

 

But Here’s the Truth:

You are more than someone’s mother. You’re still you; even if she feels hidden beneath the roles you carry.

You still have dreams, passions, gifts, and desires that have nothing to do with serving everyone else. You were a whole woman before motherhood. And you’re still whole now; even if you’ve forgotten pieces of yourself along the way.

 

So… Who Are You?

That’s the question I had to ask myself;  not from a place of judgment, but from curiosity and love. And I want to ask you the same.

• When no one is asking you for anything…
• When you strip back the title of “Mom” for just a moment…
• When you listen to the quiet tug in your heart…

Who is she?

What lights her up?

What does she miss?

What has she always wanted to do but put on pause?

 

Here’s How You Start Remembering Her

 

1. Make space for her. You don’t need hours. Start with 10 intentional minutes just for you a day
2. Write without judgment. Journal: “I feel most like myself when…” Let the words flow.
3. Revisit old joys. Was it reading? Creating? Dancing? Dreaming? Reconnect with something that belonged to you before kids.
4. Speak life over yourself. You are not “just” a mom. You are a whole woman out here, with a purpose beyond the roles you fill.

 

This Isn’t About Choosing Yourself Over Motherhood, It’s About Choosing Both

You can love your children deeply… and still want to find you again. That doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human. You showing up for yourself models something powerful for your children. That women are allowed to be more than caretakers. That moms deserve joy, too.

 

You’re Still In There

This post is your gentle nudge to look in the mirror and remind yourself:

She’s still there.

She’s still worthy.

And she’s still becoming.

Let’s start remembering her. One moment, one breath, one choice at a time.

You’re not lost, you’re just being reintroduced to yourself.

 

With love,

G